Its 4 am in the morning and I’m still up- what is this? Jet lag from a previous trip or just not able to sleep. You know one of those nights when you just can’t.. I don’t know. Nothing comes to mind other then this temptation to sit on the bed and start writing a blog.
And I don’t know why I’m thinking about this movie called Crazy Stupid Love that I saw some time back- typical plot, everyone is love or think they are love, they have fun, they fight a bit but eventually everyone comes around and everyone is happy and settled for ever and ever. Surprised? Real life is however not so hollywoodish- In real life you love and you have to hold it carefully for ever because if you lose you just lose it. It never comes back .
Same old love story. Same old packaging I say. What is love anyways?
Countless people have defined love in a variety of ways so I’m not going to attempt it at all. Its just a pointless futile exercise done by old poets who had plenty of time ( and money) to think, write and think again.
I feel love is a scam to make us vulnerable. I real life love is a “weapon” that will be used against you. Just like you will use it to against other. Its a fair game.
Some famous guy once said ” why do we hurt the people that we love the most”.Because its one and the same thing and we know no other way – we have no one else to hurt without a good chance of getting hurt back.
Love is also a currency that people use to bargain with their love ones. “Do this we love you, we know what is best for you”. Use these ( love) magic words and you have got me. Parents, siblings, Girlfriends, wives, husbands and even God. Do this because God loves or if you do this then God will not love. C’mon do you know what it sounds like- It sounds like a scam and that’s what it is.
The movie has at-least got the title right-” Its bloody crazy stupid love” and not in a nice way. Let’s face it. In the end Love is like your second best chance not to be lonely and miserable when you are frail and old. Your first best chance is to get married, have kids and hope it works out as long as you can. So listen to your mother and get married.
But the only way to guarantee that you never be lonely every in life is to accept that life is about crossing a series of hoops from the time you are born and till you die. And when you look deep inside you know that you are alone. Only you and no one else with you.
Once you accept that then you can never be lonely. You can’t leave yourself. This is the plan. You have your company to keep. How about that ? Sounds scary? It does. A life long teachings of man is a social animal and all the “happy ever after” stories can make your head go soft.
Right in the beginning, in the middle and in the end. We are lonely. That is our biggest insecurity and our biggest strength. Accept it. Remember, love will only take you so far. However you will stay with yourself till the end.
Now a little sleep God. I’m begging you. Show me some love.